Do women date down?

you know this guys got cash...
you know this guys got cash…

If her daddy’s rich, take her out for a meal. If her daddy’s poor, just do as you feel.~   In the Summer Time, Mungo Jerry

 I can’t help but notice the connection between having a beautiful girlfriend or wife and having money or power–or maybe just a nice car. (Expensive and fast, which equals money and power)

Men are considered jerks if we want a nice looking lady. We’re way out of line if we want sex. We’ve been told that sex is all we think about. Well ladies, I’m here to tell you, it is a big deal but it’s not all we think of. We think about football, video games, poker night, beer and sex. Oh–I already mentioned sex. Sorry. And beer, did I mention beer?

But maybe, just maybe, ladies, we use all of the things I’ve listed to sooth our wounded egos. See, a man pretty much defines himself by his woman (yep, we like our egos inflated by our women) and by his job. What’s really great is when you come home from a long day’s work and your woman comments on what a hard worker you are. It’s like two for one. Yea, I think our egos are hurt, because you gals can’t help but fall in love with guys who have money and power.

I walk around base here and when I see a pretty girl, I say “officer’s girl”. Sure enough when the guy turns around, he’s got captain’s bars on the front of his uniform.  I look away, so as not to be rude. (That’s not the way I roll.) Side note: Some guys say other guy’s girlfriends are fair game, they’re not married after all. Not me. Violates the Golden Rule.

End of digression.

But us Children of a Lesser God have little chance. I mean, head down to the local clubs here in Germany. You don’t see officers down there very often. They simply don’t have to be there. All they have to do is flash the rank, or rev the engine of their new BMW M5 a little louder as the smokin’ chick walks by. Maybe lean out his window: “How you doin'”?

I remember when I was in college, thinking the opposite of what I’m saying here. It seemed like some very regular looking guys with not a lot of money or much else, were able to score beautiful girlfriends. I see that much less now.

Oh, and looks and athleticism don’t matter much, either, unless those attributes bring the guy money and power. Money,money, money…

We see it in Hollywood too. When does an actress marry a guy who makes less money than her? maybe the bag-boy at Piggly Wiggly. He’s a really nice guy,I hear. Smart too. Working on his thesis in physics, about four-vector in relativity. Don’t ask me what that is. Give him a chance.

There’s this really degrading T-Shirt on T-Shirthell.com. It says: Fat Girls Try Harder, on its front. It’s degrading yes, but in some ways it’s true. People who feel they’re lacking in some areas try to make up for it in others. We could say, Broke guys with no influence try like fricken crazy.  I wouldn’t argue.

So maybe you should step outside your safe zone ladies. Give the guys driving Opels a chance. The guy at the gas pump who asks you out–don’t laugh at him when you drive away. He tries really hard.




7 Responses to “Do women date down?”

  1. 1 kernunos
    December 11, 2008 at 10:24 pm

    Making them laugh is the key. Just remember to be careful what you wish for. Hot chicks usually come with lots of baggage and they have been trained and subconciously reinforced from a young age to understand what hottiness does for them. They may not be aware of it and then become very selfish. A man’s best bet would be to find a career overrachiever that is on the pretty side of average. Of course if a man has been previously married then it is a good idea to find a woman who has been too. Just do not be their first date after. The most important thing is to find a woman that appreciates you for what makes you you, not the things you think a woman is attracted too. For instance, if you are a crazy cat person Liberal then try not to hide it too long. It makes for an awkward situation the first time they come to your place.

    If all else fails then try treating all women like crap. About 50% of all women have a gene that makes them attracted to just that type of man.

  2. December 12, 2008 at 2:37 am

    Although I tend to agreee (Playboy bunny types always say they like a sense of humor, kindness etc but always date rich old guys ;-), my beloved http://www.hotchickswithdouchebags.com proves women date down – in many cases, way down. Just take a look at a few of them (The Metaphysical Hooligan being my favorite) for proof.

  3. 3 Mike Rozos
    December 14, 2008 at 5:28 am


    The Douche link was funny. The only quirk, those ‘chicks’ actually looked like they matched those guys perfectly;

    Now, how do I buzz mazes and letters into my hair…?

  4. December 14, 2008 at 10:14 am

    We have to define “down” here. In this case I mean “guy with an average income and a very average car.”

    Kernunos is on to something with his Professional Workaholic thing. And maybe I should try treating them like crap too; that’s a proven tactic sure to win the day.

  5. 5 Elizabeth
    December 20, 2008 at 10:12 pm

    First of all, great entry. Found it very intressting! I think the reason why women go for the men who are wealthier is because it sends out a signal for “comfort” and stability. Obviously, thats not all there is to a relationship, but I think its got something to do with our genes. Thinking of it from a very general perspective; females are ment to be mothers and give birth to strong children. Men are supposed to provide food for the family and protect the family. Money = Comfort = Stability in the family. Also, money = power and nowadays we can’t show off our beautiful tails to indicate that we are the one, instead we use money.

    I think men do the same thing when they are attracted to women. Somehow theres always something that catches your attention and makes you think “this is wife material” right? Whatver that is.

    So yeah, i dont think its a mystery but rather a question about our natural instincts!

    Sorry for the long comment haha!

  6. December 21, 2008 at 9:51 am


    I agree with your hypothesis–to a point. But men want stability too, and yet they seem to always want the hot, unstable woman. Just like kernunos observes– “Hot chicks usually come with lots of baggage and they have been trained and subconciously reinforced from a young age to understand what hottiness does for them.”

    As I always say though–hotness covereth a multitude of sins. So men are willing to put up with craziness and shallowness for a while. At least until they’re old and wise like me. 🙂

  7. 7 Jada
    December 10, 2010 at 3:27 am

    People say that all these beautiful girls are only looking for rank and power, and yet, what do men see as their main offering? Sexuality and beauty. Is that all women have to give? Speaking of unfair: those are things that women have to be born with. At least men can earn wealth and rank. Then again, there are tons of gorgeous girls who care about intelligence, education, personalty, AND good-looks more than wealth or rank. THOSE are the girls who are unattainable. No doubt, these girls are as intelligent and interesting as the men they date, so they expect the same. These girls whose life goals are to “earn” a high-ranking, wealthy husband aren’t even worth the officers they snatch. / end rant

    / restart rant

    Yep, I’m one of that party of average, hard-working girls, surrounded by similar average, hard-working girls of varying attractiveness. Mainly, from my pool of acquaintances and friends, students. What intelligent student is going to want to date down? In the case of college people, dating down would probably mean dating someone of lower education.

    The problem is that women aren’t yet thought of as being able to earn and support themselves, so people assume that they want power for stability. Guess what? Not all beautiful women want rank and power, since they can support themselves. Okay, yeah, I’m pretty average, and you can dismiss what I say just based off that – but on the other hand, I’m a girl who knows tons of girls, and at least I know what I’m talking about because I’ve been told.

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